It’s Not Sex If She Does It For Money

One of my Asian girlfriends recently surprised me with the following statement.

“I’m so sorry John, but I cannot see you anymore. My mom wants me to get married.”

The mom had already conveniently found a young man for her to marry. The girl humbly compiled with the wishes of her mom. It happened suddenly. I was not invited to the wedding. But my other girlfriend, with whom we’d had threesomes every night, was invited. The bride and my other girlfriend kept their shared secret of our sperm swapping threesomes to themselves. They will take the truth with them to their graves.

Of course, I am happy for her and I wish her all the best in her new marriage. She is an intelligent and hard working person, and her husband is getting an excellent wife. But there are multiple layers of denial going on here, which bothers me. In the bride’s way of thinking:

1. The past does not exist.
2. It’s not sex if she does it for money. In her mind, she is still a virgin.
3. He will never know because she will never tell.

Does he know how many times she swallowed my load? Does he know how many times I came in her perky ass, unprotected? Of course he does not. Being a traditional young Asian male, this forbidden knowledge would cause an immediate emotional meltdown.

She will probably never give him a blow job, because she does not want him to know that she is extremely good at it. This deception bothers me. I am a firm believer in the Truth. I never lie to my girlfriends, and in return I expect them to be entirely honest with me.

I have watched a few Youtube interviews with female Japanese porn stars. There is a similar kind of denial going on with them. Each woman stated that if she sees a male porn actor in public, with whom she has previously had sex, she will not say hello. She will instead pretend that she does not know him. To me, this is a case of extreme denial. There are remnants of his sperm still inside you. How do you not know him?

I have had more than one Asian girlfriend who has only ever had sex for money. In each case, she never had sex just for the pleasure of having sex. In her mind, having sex for fun, with an attractive young man, would make her a bad girl. But having sex for money with a stranger, a few times a week, is okay. This does not reduce her opinion of herself. She is doing it to support herself and her family.

When I realized that my current girlfriend had never experienced sex just for fun; a hookup, I encouraged her to try it. My intention was for her to realize that this is her life, and she can make her own choices. She can consider the opinion of her mom, or my opinion. But the opinion that really matters is her own. Once I had planted this seed, it did not take long for her to try it. At a local wedding, she met a man, and found him attractive. As soon as the wedding was over, they departed together for a nearby hotel for a hookup. No money changed hands, and in the end she felt empowered by the experience. She chose him, as opposed to her job as a bar girl, where she waits for a man to choose her.

Her self confidence is increasing. As a result, she has now opened a small online shopping business, which is making money. I will continue to encourage her and my other girlfriends to expand their comfort zones and take charge of their own lives.

John Bonnaque is a regular contributor to Rockit Reports. He has written highly readable pieces on Soi Cowboy, the happy monger, sexually transmitted diseases, the science of aging, an awesome threesome, the thrill of the chase, keeping it real, the readership of Rockit Reports, the future of sex, women’s enjoyment of anal sex, his personal experience at Hunny Bunny Massage in Bangkok, in praise of Asian women, and a tale of too many women.