Beginner Tips for Using a Strap-On Harness

How long have you felt curious about trying a strap-on with a sex partner? You may have been postponing buying one because you feel a bit intimidated by the whole contraption. Worry not, strap-on harnesses are incredibly user-friendly. Following a few simple tips will help you master this brand new sex toys in a matter of minutes, whether you’ll be the one giving or receiving the pleasure.

What’s a Strap-On Harness?

A strap-on harness is a contraption you secure around your body to hold a dildo on your mons pubis. With a strap-on harness, you can engage in a steamy pegging session or some hot girl-on-girl action.

Strap-on harnesses make it easy to lose some inhibitions and try a completely new sex scenario. Role reversal can be very erotic and stimulating for both parties involved. When a woman is penetrating a man, she feels empowered and he experiences the liberation of giving up some control. In girl-on-girl scenarios, strap-ons can enable various kinds of play that will be impossible to engage in otherwise.

Choose the Right Harness and Dildo

Are you already feeling turned on by the idea? If so, you’ll need to start doing your research.

You’ll find lots of strap-on harnesses and compatible dildos on the market. The best one for your needs will be stable, comfortable and easy to use. the probe will have the right size and features to enable pleasurable penetration.

Let’s look at the harness first.

You’ll find various harness designs. Strappy harnesses can be adjusted very easily to fit your waist and hips. If you need to, you can also easily find a plus size strap on harness. This category features two popular sub-divisions – jock harnesses and G-string harnesses.

Alternatively, you can choose an underwear-style harness. Boxers and briefs are two popular picks but thong-style harnesses are also available. These look like a pair of regular undies that have a pocket and an O-ring in the front. The dildo goes there, getting it secured in place. Many people prefer the underwear-style harness because it’s very comfy and easy to use. To make sure the harness feels right, however, you’ll need to get the right size (no adjustability, which makes underwear-style harnesses different from the strappy ones).

Now, let’s move on to the dildos and probes. The main features you’ll need to pay attention to include:

• The material that the probe is made of – medical-grade silicone is always a high-quality, safe choice
• Size of the probe – go smaller if you’re a newbie and pay attention to both the length and the girth of the dildo
• Texture, is it completely smooth and streamlined or do you have some texture for additional stimulation
• Shape – prioritize a slightly curved dildo because it’s going to be perfect for G-spot or prostate stimulation
• Additional features like vibrations to make the experience more intense

Try the Harness on a Few Times Alone

Once you buy the perfect harness and strap-on combo, you’ll need to understand how these products work.

We recommend testing the strap-on harness alone a few times before getting into it with a partner.

If you choose a strappy variety, make sure you know how to adjust the harness and how to secure it around your body. When the harness is put on correctly, it should give you a snug fit without being uncomfortable. The dildo should also fall in an anatomically-correct position. The harness should be doing a good job of stabilizing the dildo.

Try moving with the harness on. Try doing some thrusting. Make sure the probe is steady and easy to control. You may feel a bit awkward at first and that’s normal. Take some time to start feeling confident about this new acquisition. When you’re ready, you can bring a partner into the experience.

Use Lube, Be Patient

There are a few essentials you need to remember when using a strap-on harness with a partner.

The first and most important thing is to be patient and take it slow. This is crucial for everyone but even more so for a partner who has never been penetrated before.

Don’t rush into things if you don’t both feel ready for something new. Use a strap-on harness to tease each other, incorporate it in foreplay. In time, you’ll feel good enough to take the experience to the next level.

Also, use lots of lube. The more lube you put on your dildos, the better the sensation is going to be. You can never have enough lube, even if you’re using a strap-on for vaginal penetration. If you’re using it for anal penetration, the use of lube becomes completely non-negotiable.

Make sure that your lube is compatible with the strap-on’s dildo. As a general rule of thumb, you can use water-based lube with all kinds of sex toys. Silicone lube is very smooth, creamy and long-lasting but it’s not compatible with silicone toys.

Our final tip is to experiment with different sex positions. Let the recipient be on top until the two of you become more familiar with the strap-on harness. Doggy style and standing positions can also be very fun to explore because they will enable different angles and depths of penetration.

Don’t forget to communicate! You two should be having an ongoing conversation about what feels right, how you’re enjoying the current sensation and what needs to change to make things better. In the absence of enough feedback from a recipient, you’ll never be capable of pinpointing the things that feel the best for everyone involved.

Strap-on harnesses are incredibly versatile and they will build deeper intimacy. Needless to say, such toys also contribute to much more satisfying and enjoyable sex lives. The moment you try one, you’ll probably fall in love with it. Start out small and test the possibilities that strap-on harnesses bring to the table. If the two of you enjoy the experience, you can easily expand your sex toy collection to incorporate different kinds of probes and sexy scenarios in your regular intimacy routines.