As someone who owns sex dolls, I often get asked:
Can you actually date while owning dolls?
As you see, the assumption is pretty clear: if you own a sex doll, people think you must have chosen it over a real relationship.
Hmm… I don’t blame them for thinking that way.
But to tell you honestly, when I bought my first sex doll, it was not meant as a statement about my future. Really.
It was a simple order confirmation… a payment processed… or a delivery at the door.
But the moment dating comes up? Suddenly, it turns into a red flag… a dealbreaker… or at least, that’s what people assume.
Blah blah blah… too many questions:
… Does owning a sex doll mean you cannot have a real relationship?
… Does it change how others see you?
… Does it change how you see yourself?
And… Can you actually date while owning a sex doll?
Well, here’s what happened.
A Little Bit Of My Background
I have been collecting for several years, and my home is now shared with four very different TPE and silicone sex dolls.
Story time: It all began as a way to cope with deep depression and the crushing loneliness after a painful breakup. My first was a silicone BBW, a stunning companion with full breasts, soft features, lifelike realism, and natural elasticity.
Later, I added a Japanese petite model (I love everything about Japan) for variety, and eventually a high quality TPE sex doll (a BBW, btw).
Her body is soft, flexible, and has a gorgeously lifelike appearance, dressed in clothes and a stylish suit.
At first, shame was my constant companion. I hid the boxes, worried about what neighbors or visitors might think. And hey, you can’t blame me for that! LOL.
But over time, I started to like them for what they are. Yep… these dolls are much better than simple handheld toys–at least, for me.
To be honest? I never forgot what is real or treated them like real people, but my love dolls helped me feel close to someone when real closeness seemed impossible. Oh… I really love them.
And while I spent time with these four realistic dolls, I also went on actual dates–and let me tell you, this is what it was really like:
I Tried Dating Without Mentioning My Realistic Dolls
When I first decided to start dating again, I chose to keep my collection a secret. Hell no, I would not tell anyone.
I kept my dolls hidden in my apartment, in closets or under the bed. It felt safer–sure, but it made me worry all the time.
Like…what if my date looks through my things and finds my 90-pound doll? That would be a disaster!
Hey… do not laugh! I knew (and I know you knew) that if a woman found a big piece of silicone while looking for a towel, the relationship would probably end right away.
And the biggest challenge of this ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ rule is that it creates real connection very… hard. Like, literally.
I remember those times when I was always being careful, worried if I had cleaned everything or if a doll’s arm was sticking out. Yes… like in horror movies. Ha!
Then, I realized that by hiding such a big part of my private life, I was waiting for a disaster to happen. It was an awful experience, and the outcome was not a happy ending.
I Tried Dating After Being Honest
So yes… I learned from my first mistake. And I decided to be honest and tell about my dolls during conversations, after a few dates.
The results were… a mixed bag. Yikes!
I learned that many women feel uneasy about male sex toys. One of my dates even said that owning one was an immediate dealbreaker, calling the dolls “creepy,” “sad,” or a sign of “misogyny.” (LOL! You cannot even find a research article to prove that.)
Ah… ummm… ehhhhhh… ohh…
Actually, those were not a typo. That was my reaction when I heard that.
However, not every experience was negative.
Yep, I actually met a few women who saw it as a green flag–like they said my honesty showed I was comfortable with my sexuality and knew how to take care of myself.
In the best cases, they were even open to including my dolls in our shared intimacy, kind of like how many couples already use vibrators or other gadgets. And honestly… it was pure heaven!
What I Learn From These Experiences
The biggest lesson I have learned from all of these is that compatibility is everything.
You know… owning dolls turns out to be an effective filter. It helps you weed out people who are judgmental or sexually incompatible with your level of openness.
I also learned there is a huge societal double standard. While women are often encouraged to have a drawer full of vibrators, a man owning a torso or a full-sized doll is judged much more harshly. Pftt… Talking about equality!
And you know what? Many ignorant (sorry for my language) humans struggle to see the difference between a handheld toy and a full-bodied surrogate, even when the users treat them simply as TOYS.
Moreover, I had to face the hard truth: some people will always project negative traits onto me just because of my collection.
They have this funny kind of belief that I have “unhealthy mindsets” or that I’m “socially awkward,” no matter who I really am. Blah blah… Honestly? I do not care. F**** them!
As long as I’m honest, respectful, and enjoying my life on my own terms, their opinions do NOT matter.
Final Thoughts
Can you date while owning a sex doll? Absolutely–but you’ll need a thick skin and a lot of patience.
Look, mate… society’s view on male sex toys is still way behind, and the stigma is real. You’ll face rejection, and yes, you’ll get called “weird” more than once–and it sucks!
So, wait for the right person who won’t see your dolls competition but as tools that add to physical pleasure and intimacy. It is okay to enjoy your own company while waiting.
If you luckily find someone who’s as open-minded as you, you might discover that your little silicone secret is not a dealbreaker at all–and it could actually lead to a more fun, adventurous, and honest relationship.
FAQs
Is owning a TPE sex doll considered a “red flag” by most women?
It gets mixed reactions, actually. Some women on Reddit see a full-sized doll as a dealbreaker. They often think it replaces a real person. But from my experience, some women think it shows the man understands himself and feels comfortable with his own needs.
Does artificial intelligence affect sex dolls or relationships?
Yes, in some ways. AI can make dolls more interactive, but cost more. Technology in China now allow some advanced dolls to talk, show personality and emotions, and respond in simple ways.
Some people feel this makes them feel less alone and more connected. But others argue it may give people ideas that are not the same as real-life relationships.
Should I be honest about my silicone sex doll collection early in a relationship?
Being too honest can be risky. Talking about it can help find partners who are open-minded and do not judge. But my advice is to wait a few dates first. Saying it too early, or having a partner find out by accident, can sometimes lead to a breakup.
Can TPE dolls be used together in a relationship?
Yes. Some couples use TPE or silicone dolls or similar materials to try new experiences or engage in threesomes or “play along” together. Many open-minded partners even use toys together to increase pleasure and help both partners stay connected.
