Russian Roulette? The real risks of going bareback

risks of unprotected sex include pregnancyJust how dangerous is unprotected sex? What are the real risks involved in going in bareback? There is a lot of talk floating around out there, but not a whole lot of it is backed up by facts.

I’ve been around the world a few times, fucking thousands (yes thousands) of women as I’m made my way from one place to the next. It took a while, but it was a fun mountain to climb, I would like to say that I’ve used condoms one-hundred percent of the time, but that would be a big lie and I prefer to be truthful with my readers.

With non-pro scores, I let the woman dictate what they want. If they don’t ask for a condom, I might not either. It really depends on the situation and my gut feeling. That’s not very scientific, but it’s done me right so far. I’ve never had a non-pro ask me to put a condom on for oral, or use anything to go down on her. About half have asked me to rubber up for vaginal intercourse (more in the US than anywhere, plenty of Thais too; only a few in China, South Korea and Japan; almost none in the Philippines). I would say that my total usage rate for non-working women over my lifetime is probably around 75 or 80 percent.

With professionals the rate is a little higher, but probably not as much as it should be.

The majority of working women around the world will ask their clients to strap up. Many will even demand it. That’s especially true of the real pros in massage parlors and brothels in places like the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom, Hong Kong, Macau, New Zealand and the Netherlands. In some places like Angeles City however, it’s rarely asked and almost never required. Although it has a similarly huge sex industry, Thailand has gotten a lot more pro-condom over the last two decades. There are an increasing number of independent escorts around the world offering bareback sex at a premium, and there are also big bareback sex parties in Germany where pros let guys go in raw (but that’s another post all together).

Blowjobs are always bareback for me when available, which is most times. I make exceptions in Chinese and Korean massage parlors, places like New Hot Point, and the few Japanese blowjob bars that require them. Most of the time though, my salami is sucked unwrapped. That has only caused me problems twice in my life, and both times it was nothing that a two day regiment of antibiotics couldn’t take care of. This is what I wrote previously on safety in blowjob bars:

“it’s fairly rare to catch anything by simply getting blown. If you think I’m bullshitting you, head over to the MedHelp section on STDs and see what the doctors (who helped write the American government’s policies on the subject) have to say about it. Now, please don’t take this to mean you can’t get anything.”

I’ve only gone in one pay for play provider’s butt without a rain jacket many years ago. It wasn’t one of my brightest moments, but in my defense she was a semi-pro university student that I had already been barebacking for months. At least I think that’s a defense. I didn’t catch anything from that experience but I did end up with a tiny bit of mud on the helmet, the first and hopefully last occurrence of that little nightmare in my life.

As to other types of protection: I tried the female condom once and both the woman involved and I were totally turned off by it. I also used a dental dam once. I wouldn’t do it again. I’d rather stay home and jack off to a hot 19 year old spinner on Chaturbate.

I’ve also broken a few condoms in the heat of the moment. If I had to guess, I’d say that had happened around two dozen times, including once with a well worn working women that left me a bit shaken. I’ve always caught the break a moment or two after it has happened (when things suddenly started to feel a whole lot better), except for one late night romp in Thailand. Thankfully, I’ve never gotten any illnesses after a break.

That’s my “wrap sheet,” although it’s not the main point of this article. Anecdotes don’t tell the whole story, even though some would like to pretend otherwise. The goal, expressed in a round about way in the opening lines of this post, is to get down to some information that is actually tested and verifiable.

There was a good post on the Sex and Sensibilities website on exactly this subject. Among other things, it says:

“….HIV and Hepatitis C infection rates HIV transmission via receptive anal sex (receiving the penis into the anus, also known as bottoming) at 1.4%. This means that an average of one transmission occurred for every 71 exposures. This risk was similar regardless of whether the receptive partner was a man or woman.

“In comparison, CATIE estimated the risk of HIV transmission through receptive vaginal sex (receiving the penis in the vagina) to be 0.08%, equivalent to 1 transmission per 1,250 exposures.

“HIV transmission for insertive vaginal sex (inserting the penis into the vagina) was estimated to be 0.04%, equivalent to 1 transmission per 2,500 exposures.”

The author is in the Philippines, but she quotes a study from Canada. Not that it matters. We are all humans. I’d actually like to see a similar test done in the Philippines directly since condom use is so spotty there, even among the people who bang for a living.

There have been many other studies done that’ve had similar results. Of course I don’t need a study to tell me that going bareback in a heroin-addicted transsexual hooker’s ass is more risky than getting a blowjob from a 18-year-old virgin, but it’s nice to have some hard numbers to look at.

Unfortunately, that’s all you really can do: look at them. They might work for big dreamers in even bigger bureaucratic offices trying to formulate policies, but they don’t mean much for individual cases. The Canadian study says the chances of getting HIV from unprotected penetrative vaginal sex are 1 in 2,500. Does that mean you can fuck 2,499 infected women without contracting the disease? Definitely not. One session can put you down for the count if the moon and stars are aligned just right to ruin your life. There are many factors. A woman might have an internal injury that causes her to bleed, for example.

In my experience there is a sort of age divide when it comes to condom use and the attitudes surrounding it among men.

Older guys have been dipping their wicks since before the term AIDS was ever heard of. They tend to be pretty loose with the condom use. That’s even true of a lot married guys, which I used to think was odd before I realized that they had no fear of bringing diseases home to their wives because they never have sex with them anyway.

Guys in their 30’s and 40’s cut their teeth while the AIDS crisis was in full bloom. They learned to fuck while sex education and condom campaigns were being thrown all over the place. They couldn’t miss it. This age group is the most likely to be scared of sex and use condoms in any and all situations. Some of these guys go to extremes, with such paranoia that I wonder if they don’t crawl into a full body wet suit to cross the street.

Young people are less likely to wear condomsFinally there are the guys in their 20’s and late teens. These young bucks came up after the AIDS crisis was brought under control. Oh wait, that never really happened. I guess their lack of regard for condoms is due to a lessening in coverage of HIV infections, improved medicines that mean HIV isn’t necessarily a death sentence anymore, burnout on safe sex campaigns, the elimination of sex ed in many places, and the general apathy and nihilism of guys growing up in the 21st century.

This is my perspective anyway. I’ve also heard things from sex workers about certain nationalities preferring to go in raw, but I don’t know what validity that has. In any case there are always exceptions.

So back to the original question: what are the risks with bareback sex? There are many. Most of the things you can acquire are curable. A few are not. Some can be fatal. Some are just downright nasty.

In other words, it’s better to take advice on condom use from people who study sexual diseases for a living than the Pope. Or me. Those people say you should wear a condom to give you the best chance at staying healthy. I’ve compiled a list of the best condoms here. Sometimes switching up brands or models can help you get over “rubber burn out” (and I’m not talking about car racing here).

Risk and reward are things that have to be balanced and measured in any situation. Educating yourself is an important part of being able to make decisions you can live with.

Finally, remember that while I know a lot about getting laid, I’m no health expert. Consult one if you have questions or need help dealing with safe sex and/or disease.

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